Tell Me Pastor

She's bribing my man for sex

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 23 and living in the United States with my boyfriend of five years. We travel to Jamaica regularly. He met another girl there and got involved with her. He explained to me that it was only for a moment and that he was sorry.

However, this girl is stalking me. She calls my house phone all hours of the day. She sends me dirty messages. She pays people to give her my number so she can stalk, me and my boyfriend. I don't know if he is lying about not giving her the numbers. He complains each time she calls and I trust him. She even had someone leave a message on my home phone. I have really had it with this girl. I plan on reserving a seat on the next flight to Jamaica to beat her ass.

Tell me what to do before I make a wrongful accusation and hurt someone. This girl is really a mess. She has no pride. I told her to stop bribing my man and that he does not need any of her sexual favours. She still calls, even though she has seen that my man does not hide anything from me. I need help from this stalker.

K.B., Bronx, New York

Dear K.B.,

Your boyfriend started this whole mess. I believe he gave her the numbers where he can be reached. He must have told her that he was interested in her. He probably thought that when she found out that he was living with another woman she would back off. But she has decided to hang on, hoping that one day in the future he will return to Jamaica and marry her.

Now you are fighting to keep him. I don't blame you for doing so. What you should do is to change your telephone numbers. I rather suspect that you did so already and that didn't help. You may have to do so again and remember that you do not have to accept any call before the callers identify themselves. There is also the caller I.D. Talk to your telephone company about this type of service.

Pastor