Tell Me Pastor

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Dear Pastor,

I am 25 and I live in Canada. Pastor I am deeply depressed, and I just need some guidance. My life is very complicated.

I have three children and their father was murdered six years ago. Since then I found a man through a mutual friend. This man seemed to have all of the qualities that I am looking for until it seemed to me that he was all talk. I believe that action speaks louder than words, and if I hear too much talking, then I leave. He has no job, and he lives at home with his mother. The only thing I still give him respect for is the fact that he looks after his two children by himself. How? I don't know.

Setting foundation

I just truly believe that if he had a job, things would be a lot different between us. He talks about buying a house and getting married. It is also a matter of setting a foundation, but how can you when you don't have the first stone? I am independent and I do not ask him for anything because I know his situation. I am not used to doing that because my children's father provided everything and was very loving towards his children.

I do have strong feelings for this man, but under these conditions, I am worried that this relationship is doomed. He has work experience and is highly intelligent, but he has no drive to do anything and I am so fed up. Please shed some light on this matter.

Very confused,

Canada.

Dear Very confused,

You don't need this man in your life. If you continue to have him, he will quietly eat out every penny you have. He is not employed and he has nothing. Run him before he destroys you. Your children would want a man in their life they can look up to and respect.

Don't be sorry for this man. He is not ambitious. Get rid of him and do so quickly.

Pastor.