Tell Me Pastor

The love is gone

Dear Pastor

I love to read your comments. I have a problem of my own. When I was in the eighth grade, I met the love of my life. He was so kind, honest, sharing and caring to me. My problem is I left him.

For seven years, we have been talking on the telephone and every time I talk to him, he does not sound like the same person that I met years ago.

There is something going on in Jamaica and I have put my hands on it and he's not being honest with me. My love is not there for him anymore, but every time I call him he keeps telling me that he still loves me and will not give up on me.

I am confused. Right now I am 20 and I am doing my thing in school. I want to move on with my life, but it is going to be very unfair for him to wait for me all these years, and then for me to tell him that it's over between the two of us.

Pastor, don't get me wrong. I love him but it is too hard for me not having a boyfriend by my side to share all my dreams with.

Just pray for me because I am confused.

K. N., North Carolina, U.S.A

Dear K.N.,

Don't put your heart on this young man. Go on dates. You have been away from him for a long time and although he says that he loves you, you are not sure if he is speaking the truth and apparently you don't love him as much as you did.

I am sure that this guy is not sitting around waiting on you. He may tell you that he is still interested in you but he is surely not pining over you.

You feel the need for male companionship at times, so date other guys.

Pastor