Tell Me Pastor

I really want to have his baby

Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old girl who recently moved to the United States of America. I have been in love with a guy for nearly two years and I don't know what I would do without him in my life.

When I was 16 he got me pregnant and during my fourth month I had a miscarriage. That was six months in our relationship.

I really want to be with him and want us to get married. He knows that I want us to get married but he has never asked me and I don't know why. He lives in another state.

He often says that he is going to live with me but I think that he tells me this because he knows that would make me happy to hear, not because he wants to.

I told him that I want to have his child and again I think he is going to get me pregnant because I want it and not because he wants to.

Pastor, please tell me if I am making too much of this guy or am I just following my heart?

Puzzled, USA

Dear Puzzled,

I think you are making a big mistake. You are 18 years old and you are living in the land of opportunities.

Instead of being eager to get pregnant you should try your very best to get a good education.

You got pregnant when you were 16 years old and you had a miscarriage.

Why are you so eager to get pregnant again? What are you trying to prove? A child is not a toy.

I cannot encourage you to seek to become pregnant again. Nor can I encourage you to shack up with the man. What I would urge you to do is to go to school and become a career woman.

Put yourself in a position that you may be able to support yourself and make a worthwhile contribution to society.

Pastor