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JAMMED

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 29 years old and live in New York, in the United States. I am from Jamaica and the problem that I am having is this: I started talking to a guy when I was 15 and living in Jamaica. He fell in love with me and I must say that I fell in love with him too. I had my first kiss with this guy and after a couple months of dating, I moved to New York.

I stopped talking to him and after three years of being in America I went to Jamaica. I saw him and I was excited to see him. I told him that I have moved on and that we could only be friends and he was upset.

He told me that he still thinks about me and had not gone out with anyone else. Well I left Jamaica thinking about him. After my last relationship had ended, I prayed that I could find someone who would love God just as much as I do.

Virgin

I went back to Jamaica last year and I saw him again. We spent two days together and also the last night of my visit. We talked and I found out that he was not going out with anyone and that he was still a virgin at 24 years old. I really did not believe him. We almost had sex that night but we did not go all the way because I told him I wanted to wait until I am married, and he understood.

Change of heart

Now we are having a long-distance relationship and my heart is telling me to make a change. He has not given me any reason not to trust him.

His family members are very nice to me. My mother doesn't really want me to have a relationship with someone all the way in Jamaica because she thinks that if I ever get married to him, he is going to leave me when he comes to America. My friends say that he is a Jamaican and all Jamaican men are promiscuous and that this is the perfect opportunity for him to have another girl.

As you can see, I am very confused and don't know what to do. Pastor, please pray that I make the right decision.

J.D., New York, U.S.A.

Dear J.D.,

It is not true that all Jamaican men are promiscuous. This guy seems to be a good guy and I would suggest that you give the relationship with him a chance to develop.

Pastor