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Pregnant by mistake

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to seek your opinion on a problem. I am 33 years old and am pregnant for a guy who has his family. You may wonder why I did something so stupid but the story goes like this. I went to the doctor and did a fertility test. My test results showed that I had to take fertility tablets in order for me to get pregnant.

I still cannot believe that I am pregnant with this child. I have not told the guy as yet because I don't want him to think that I am trying to trap him to be in a relationship with me.

I honestly don't want to do anything to affect this relationship. At first I was considering to have an abortion but when I thought about it, I realised that my child is a gift from God. When I do tell the father about my pregnancy, I will also tell him that he doesn't have to be with me if he doesn't want to. The hardest part is going through the pregnancy and having a healthy baby.

I know that I should have been more responsible but I honestly didn't know that I could get pregnant without the fertility pills. I will not sacrifice my child's life for my mistakes.

I will be waiting for your response. Continue to give your great advice.

J. B., New York, USA

Dear J. B,

I suggest that you tell the young man that you are pregnant. But please do not press him to leave his family and come to you. I know that at the moment you do not intend doing so but circumstances can change. I hope that this man will give you the moral and financial support that you need.

Pastor