DEAR PASTOR,
I am having a serious problem. I am 23 years old and I have been with a girl since high school. I love this girl with all my heart and hope to make her my wife one day, but and this is a big but I've been cheating on her with someone else, and this particular person happens to be her brother. We have been sneaking around for the past year.
The problem is I love this girl and I don't want to lose her, but I can't keep lying to her. Sooner or later the truth has to come out. I enjoy having sex with her brother. I wouldn't consider myself gay because I prefer women to men any day. But I also have a craving for men. Her brother has been my first and suddenly I am itching for other men, even though I still prefer to be with women.
I am seriously confused and don't know what to do or whom to turn to, so I am humbly asking your advice.
D.O.
Connecticut, USA
Dear D.O.,
You know you are trying to lie to yourself by saying you do not consider yourself gay. You are bisexual. You are having sex with your girlfriend and at the same time having sex with her brother. If that is not a terrible thing to do, I would like to know what is.
It is immoral for two men to have sex together and it is also immoral for two women to have sex together. Some folks don't like to hear that, but the Bible says it is.
I would encourage you to make an appointment to see a Christian psychologist or therapist if you seriously want to change your lifestyle.
Pastor
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