Tell Me Pastor

Top secret

Dear Pastor,

I am a 13-year-old girl and I met a 20-year-old young man who works at a store. He is really handsome. Anytime we see each other we take the same bus. We both agreed that we are friends.

He didn't know my age. He thought I was about 15 or 16 because I didn't look or act as a 13-year-old. He said that he likes me more than just as a social friend. I like him too. Now that he knows I am 13, he does not want to discuss what he wanted to talk to me about.

Different

He is not like any other 20-year-old that thinks about sex a lot. He is different. He is friendly, exciting, kind, funny and has a good personality. That is what drew my attention to him but because he knows I am 13 he knows what to talk about. He is a good guy and that is why he is my top secret. My mom knows him.

What I want to know is whether or not he is thinking of me the way that I am thinking of him. I dream and think about him. Is this a good friendship? Will our friendship last? Is it OK to stay within this friendship?

Confused Teen,

Kingston

Dear Confused,

May I suggest that you consider this young man just as a social friend and nothing more. And may I urge you to tell your mother that you admire him and explain the kinds of conversation that both of you engage in when you meet.

This guy has come to realise that you are in your early teens and that you are not ready for an intimate relationship with him. And that is the reason why he is very careful about what he says to you. Please, do not push yourself on him. And please do not hide anything from your parents. They will give you guidance. Men will always admire you. Do not get carried away by what they say to you.

Pastor.