Tell Me Pastor

Ringwraiths

DEAR PASTOR,

Thank you for that sound advice that you gave to that 19-year-old girl to leave married men alone. I am tired of these women who go around with people's husbands not considering the pain they are putting the wives and children through. The same goes for those nasty men who know they have wives at home and encourage these wicked acts. What ever happened to 'til death do us part?"

Society needs to wise-up and condemn these acts. No wonder we have children having babies and so many young girls that are misguided writing to you. It's because there is no foundation in the family. A child needs his mother and father and this man, whether he married this woman for a green card or not, has broken his covenant with God. He is a wicked man. No matter what problems he and his wife have, he should not have done this.

A married man too deceived me too, but thank God I did not sleep with him. As soon as I found out that he was married, I ran the demon. As a woman I place myself in her shoes and know that one-day I too will be a wife and I wouldn't want the person I vow to spend the rest of my life with, to be sleeping with another woman.

Young ladies, be ladies and not concubines. Lift your heads up and stop sleeping with men you know nothing about. Jamaica is a beautiful and blessed place; there are many things to do there than going around sleeping with married men. Find yourselves jobs, go back to school, do community services and baby-sit for mothers that are working. If you can't find a job please find something more constructive to do in your spare time than having sex and making babies.

K.W., New York, USA

Dear K.W,

Some women should not be blamed for getting involved with married men because they did so believing that the men were single. Very often it is after the relationship is established and sometimes after the women are pregnant they become aware that the men are married. There are women who do not care whether the man is married or not but there are some who were definitely trapped.

What I am trying to say is that it is most unfortunate that most married women have to suffer because of the infidelity of their husbands. Bear in mind that there are many girls, after hearing that the man is married, ends the relationship with them. Others continue because of the financial assistance they receive from the men.

Pastor