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ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT

DEAR PASTOR,

I am a married woman living in New York who has been seeing this inspector of police in Jamaica. I left Jamaica at age 24 and came to the United States of America and made a life for myself.

I went to Jamaica and got back in touch with this policeman. We call each other daily. We love each other so much and I know that this is not infatuation; it is love. He is also married and when he comes to America we see each other. We do have a sexual relationship.

I have been married for 9 years now. The problem is the feelings for my husband is not the same as it is for this policeman. We both love each other so much. Whenever I want to visit Jamaica he buys the ticket.

Please tell me what to do. I love him so much.

A., New York, USA

Dear A,

Make up your mind. You are living a double life. I wonder what your husband will think when he finds out that you are having sex with this police officer.
You would not be happy if your husband has another woman. You would hit the roof. Why then do you continue to have an affair with this police officer?

If you do not want your marriage, then you should consider divorcing your husband. But the game you are playing is unfair. Your husband probably thinks that you are a sweet and wonderful wife but he doesn't know that the trips you make to Jamaica are to be with your lover.

Would this policeman divorce his wife and marry you? I doubt that very much. You say the relationship that both of you are having is true love. If you consider that love, then you are fooling your husband. When did you discover that you prefer this policeman? Please remember that love is not just feelings. Perhaps the policeman is good in bed, but sex is not the primary thing that makes a happy and successful relationship.

Young woman, the choice is yours. You may endeavour to be faithful to your husband and put the past behind you or you may continue to fool around the police officer and destroy your marriage. I wish you will do what is right and live with a free conscience.

Pastor