Tell Me Pastor

NOTHING BUT LIES

Dear Pastor,

My baby father and I have been together since we were living in Jamaica, and now we are living in the United Kingdom. Things were ok at first, but I noticed he started telling me lies. Sometimes we would have an argument over the lies that he has been telling me.

One day a woman rang my phone and said that they are together and I better get used to it. When I asked him about it, he told me that that was a lie and he doesn't know how this woman got my number.

I need a way to get him out of my life, because I'm sick of the lies. Even when I told him to look how far we are coming from to where we are now, he still can't get the picture.

I need your advice, if not for me but for my daughter's sake.

T., Birmingham, England

Dear T,

I suggest that you ask this man to go with you for counseling. Evidently he has got involved with another woman but he does not want to admit it to you. It would be better for him to admit what has happened and for both of you to deal with the matter honestly. He is trying to cover his tracks by telling lies. He is not being wise.

I get the feeling that you are quite willing to forgive him. But on the other hand, he might be scared to tell you the truth. Perhaps he feels that you may hit the roof, so to speak.

If he really wants to keep the relationship with you, he should be willing to go for counseling. If he refuses to go for counseling, you should consider moving on with your life. I hope it will not come to that.

Pastor