Dear Pastor,
I am a 24-year-old single parent. I live in the United States of America. I am going through a lot of stress with men. I just can't find the right one. This guy claims he is in love with me and wants to be with me forever. Whenever I mention getting married to him, he changes the conversation. I don't understand why. I am a really good person, very independent, good at keeping house and everything a man would want in a woman. Should I move on with my life or wait to see if we will get married.
A.
New York, U.S.A.
Dear A.,
Most girls have problems in finding honest and truthful men. It is so very unfortunate that so many men want to use women until they feel that they have done enough before they settle down with one.
Just a user
Every woman is at the risk of being used by a man. This is true whether she is educated or uneducated. A woman always believes that she stands a good chance in marrying the man she meets and dates for a while. So, it is always a disappointment for her when she discovers that the man was only a user. What I am trying to say to you, my dear, is you are not alone in the struggles to find a good man.
The present guy that you are dating evidently is not serious about the relationship. He treats you with discourtesy. He ought to discuss marriage with you. He should not expect you not to say anything about marriage at all. You have a right to know whether he intends to marry you or whether you should tell him to get lost.
Do not be afraid to press the issue. If he refuses to answer stop dating him.
Pastor.
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