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From threesome to lonesome

Dear Pastor,

I am a happily married 35-years-old man who has been with my wife for 10 years. Our relationship is great emotionally and sexually. But lately I have been discussing with my wife about spicing up our sex life. I mentioned to her about having a threesome. At first she did not know what to think or what to say.

One day I came home from work and she approached me at the door and told me we would be having dinner in the bedroom. I did not ask why. I just followed her upstairs. To my surprise there was a naked woman in my bed, but that was not the only shocker. It was our next door neighbor.

Good dinner

Well, you can tell I had a good dinner. That night my wife did things I never saw her do before to me. Our neighbor did things to me that was also very nice. The biggest shocker of all was seeing them together caressing each other and they had oral sex with each other and also with me. This pleased me very much and our activities continued for about two weeks. I found out that my wife had a hidden video camera taping us in our crazy activities.

One day I came home from work and saw my wife's bags packed. She told me she was leaving me for our neighbor. She moved next door and said that I could still join them in bed, but we could not have a relationship anymore. Should I continue with this behaviour or should I be more concerned with what people might start to say?

M.G.,

Manchester, England

Dear M.G.,

You wife granted your request and you had fun. But her neighbor has now stolen her heart. You had a good relationship with your wife for 10 years. So why in the world did you want to have a threesome? Well, you got it, brother, for two weeks. And now your wife is gone. The flesh has taken over. All three of you have gone crazy. Take your beating and do not complain.

You did not respect your wife. If you had respected her you would not have requested a threesome. So she has you on tape. What are you all going to do with this tape? Imagine another woman has taken over your wife of ten years after two weeks of gross immoral conduct.

What am I to understand from your letter? Am I to understand that you want her back for yourself only or you want to know whether you should be the visiting partner while she continues to have a female lover? I cannot sanction this type of conduct. Nevertheless, it is not for me to condemn you.

You are not concerned how God sees you. You seem to be more concerned about what people will say about your wife, the woman and yourself. In my opinion it would be good if all three of you go for counseling. Your wife may not agree because she already told you she is not leaving her female lover. If you believe you have come to your senses and you realize that the threesome has brought nothing but bitterness to you, whether your wife and her lover are willing to go for counseling, you should seriously consider doing so.

Pastor.