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Regretting threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am an American living in the United States of America. I am married to a Jamaican man. we have been through a lot of trial and tribulations and seem to have overcome them. My husband wanted us to have a threesome, and I agreed. We did it and now I regret doing so. He is happy about it. What should I do?

A.P.,

Maryland, USA

Dear A.P.,

I don't know what you had in mind when you consented to do a threesome. Perhaps you thought that that would make your husband love you more. But you are wrong. Some years ago I counselled a married woman who wanted to give her husband a big surprise and a special treat.

She invited one of her friends to join her husband and herself in a threesome. Her husband was elated. He had a good time with his wife and her friend. But it was not long after his wife discovered that her husband was seeing the friend regularly and was having sexual intercourse with her.

His wife became so upset and confronted the girl on the matter, and the friendship between the girl and herself ended.

This woman, like you, regretted what she did. You see, dear lady, some folks can do certain things and don't feel guilty about it while the consciences of others will haunt them. Sexual intercourse ought to be between one man and one woman. A married woman should never agree to share her man in the same bed with another person.

Your husband got kicks out of it and he may want you to do it again. The question is, does he respect you? If he had respect for you he would not have asked you to do it in the first place.

You made a mistake. Don't repeat it. You may consider going for counselling to learn to overcome the emotional stress that you are experiencing as a result of what you did.

Pastor