Tell Me Pastor

Should I stay?

Dear Pastor,

Greetings. I am 20 years old and living in the States. I've been with my boyfriend for one year and five months. I've known him for two years though. We recently separated for reasons I heard but can't seem to understand. He wants to pursue a career in the field of sports. I have known this from the day we met but here is where the problem lies.

I care and love for this young man so very much and it hurts me to know we cannot be together and it hurts me even more to know now our relationship has been pushed back. He says we will be back together after things are better for him and I understand but I don't know why we couldn't have gone through this together just like we've gone through other ordeals. We are both faithful in every way and we both trust each other.

My question is should I wait and see where things go for him? It is hard for me to just leave him and I don't want to because I want to be there for him. Do you think I should just let him do what he wants to do and I do what is on my agenda, which is going to school. I think it is all because he sees what I am going through at school and he doesn't want to put anymore pressure on me. I love him. Should I go or stay?

K.S. Hatford, Connecticut

Dear K.S.,

As I understand it, all the young man is telling you is to give him time to pursue a career. He is not saying that he doesn't love you or that the intimate relationship is over.

He has told you to concentrate on your schoolwork and that soon both of you will be back together. That should not be too much for you to do. Try to use common sense and relax. Everything is going to be all right.

Pastor.