Tell Me Pastor

Big diss

Dear Pastor,

I am an 18-year-old Briton of Jamaican parentage. I am in a relationship with a 24-year-old Jamaican man. We started dating in January of this year, the time when I had just come out of another relationship.

Anyway, it so happened that I slept with my ex-boyfriend on the 6th of February. My boyfriend did not know about this until the 24th of May. Because he had annoyed me, I told him what happened and he went ballistic. He said that it was over. I don't understand his decision as I was honest with him. However, he doesn't see it that way. He said I was 'dissing man'. I really care about him, but I have never begged a man to come back to me. What should I do?

K., London, England

Dear K.,

Your present boyfriend is quite correct. You were indeed 'dissing' him. You are young and nave. Your boyfriend and you had a little disagreement and you insulted him by telling him that you slept with your ex-boyfriend. You do not respect your boyfriend. You would have been very angry if he had told you in his anger that he slept with an ex-girlfriend. In fact, you might have thrown anything that you could find around at him.

Men don't easily forgive women for this type of behaviour. I believe that you have lost your boyfriend. And here me, if he comes back to you, it is very unlikely that he would make you his wife. He may go to bed with you, but he will never trust you again.

Pastor