Tell Me Pastor

Mom doesn't believe us

Dear Pastor,

I have a big problem. My mother is not a young woman and she is involved with a younger man. He is married and has lots of children and younger girlfriends who are within my age group.

My mother left him at home when she went to New York with my younger sister. She left him with keys for every door despite the fact they were involved for only one month. He touched me and tried to talk me into having sex with him. I told my mom after a while, but she did not believe me. She said I was messing up her relationship with him although it was his conscience that caused him to leave her. He moved out his clothes, and she stabbed me real close to the wrist.

They got back together and the same thing happened to my sister. I got the police involved. However, she told the police that it was not necessary because she did not want him to lose his job and because people might think that he raped her.

This woman cares more about sex than her own kids. We will always be there for her and he won't. His excuse for doing this was that he wanted my mother to hate him. I am just wondering if I am the crazy one. Maybe I am looking at this from a different angle, so I would like to get your opinion.

C.A., St. Ann

Dear C.A.,

When mothers do not believe their children who complain about sexual abuse, the abusers are happy and they continue to approach the children. Evidently, that is what has happened in your case. Your mother seems to be behaving as someone who is out of her mind. She is quite willing to even lie to the police to save the relationship between this man and herself.

Speak the truth always without fear. Call the Children's Services department and ask them for help. If they are slow in helping you, talk to the minister of your church.

Pastor