Tell Me Pastor

He hit me for her

DEAR PASTOR,

I am a regular reader of your column. I am a 23-year-old young woman who has been heartbroken. Never in a million years have I ever thought that the man I love, the father of my child, would hurt me so deeply.

You see, he cheated on me with another woman and she knew about me. I have to wonder how can someone knowingly be with another woman's man. I found out about it and it was hell because the man who said he would always love me, fought me physically over this woman. And when I defended myself he called the police on me.

I am a firm believer in the saying, "What goes around comes around".

This happened a few months ago and it is just getting worse because we still have ties because of our child. Now he wants to play games where our child is concerned, and I am not going to have that. My child's father says he has ways of watching me and I don't like that one bit. But what to do, it is a free country and he can legally do whatever he wants.

I am still in love with him, but my pride won't let me show it. I can't forget him. My feelings are all over the place where he is concerned.

Please pray for me.

S.,

Dear S.,

I believe you when you say you are still in love with your child's father. Perhaps he loves you too. I am not sanctioning what he did, God forbid. But in spite of what others may say, I would ask you to consider going to counselling with the father of your child.

So often counselling can bring back couples together. You do not speak as someone who wants to end the relationship with your child's father. Stop the fussing and fighting and try to have a rational conversation with him. Let him know that you feel hurt and that you would like both of you to see a counsellor. Let me know what was his response.

Pastor