Tell Me Pastor

Double jeopardy

DEAR PASTOR,

I have been reading your column for a while and I think you are doing a wonderful work. I am writing because I have a problem. I got my girlfriend pregnant after going with her for a year. I also got another girl pregnant when my girlfriend was three months' pregnant.

The funny thing is that my girlfriend was not that upset about it. It makes me nervous to sleep in the same room with her. I think she has rage bottled up in her and maybe she is planning to cut off my private parts.

I really love this girl and I want things to work out. I do plan on supporting my other child but I have no plans to be with the mother. Do you think I should talk to her about it or just leave it alone until she brings it up?

J.G., Boston, Massachusetts

Dear J.G.,

You should not only talk to the woman with whom you live about what you have done, you should ask her forgiveness. I do not know about the fear you have that she may cut off of your private part, but indeed you should be concerned about her silence.

She may be suffering silently and she may also be aware that if she allows anger to get into the way during her pregnancy, her pressure may go up and that would not be good for her.

My friend, when a man is wrong, he is wrong. He has to humble himself and try not to repeat his mistake. You are a careless young man. What are you trying to prove by impregnating two women at the same time?

If you are going to have a family, learn to control yourself, otherwise you will be the loser.

Pastor