Dear Pastor,
I left Jamaica sometime ago to study in the United States of America. I was dealing with a deejay, but I was not number one in his life. I came to the United States of America and met someone else. I am engaged to this person, who thinks the world of me, but I can't seem to get the deejay out of my mind.
Abortion
I got pregnant for the deejay, but had to do an abortion because I couldn't hurt my family or my fiance´. The thing is, I am still in love with the deejay and I don't know what to do.
I am really not ready to settle down as I am too young and I want to enjoy life, but my fiance is the best thing that ever happened to me. What should I do?
T.R., Miami, Florida
Dear T.R.,
After you became intimately involved with this man who lives in America, you continued the sexual relationship with the deejay. He got you pregnant, but you aborted the pregnancy. I want to believe that you did not tell the deejay that you got pregnant. I am sure that he would not have encouraged you to do an abortion.
Would it be true to say that you consider the guy in America to be the best thing that has ever happened to you because he is in a position to help you financially?
Would it not also be reasonable to say that you are a deceiver? You see, you are giving this man in America the impression that you genuinely love him, but at the same time, your heart is on the deejay.
The deejay is not asking you to settle down with him. You think that you are too young to settle down, as you put it. Why have you become engaged to this guy who lives in America?
Be truthful
You should learn to be truthful. If you know for sure that you would not make this guy in America a good wife because you love the deejay more than you love him, tell him the truth. Do not believe that you can fool a man and 'eat him out' as the folks in Jamaica say and get away easily. You will get hurt.
Pastor
