DEAR PASTOR,
I have a problem that has been plaguing me for a while. I live in the United States of America with my eight-month-old daughter. Her father, whom I have been with for four years, is still living in Jamaica. We are engaged and hope to get married soon, but my problem is that I do not like living apart from the one I love for any long period. If I file for him, he will not be able to come until another two years.
I have thought about going home, but is still hesitant for numerous reasons. I love him and is willing to make the sacrifice. I will do it for my daughter as well because I want her to grow with both parents.
He will not come and stay unless he is legal. We do travel to and from when time and money permits. But I still do not feel satisfied with this and besides, it cost me a lot for phone calls.
Please give me your fatherly advice.
A.K., New York
Dear A.K.,
I suggest that you get married to this man as soon as possible and start the filing process immediately. The longer you delay getting married to him, the longer the process will take, so to speak.
Pastor
