Dear Pastor,
I will be 17 this year. I reside in the U.S. and I have a 20-year-old boyfriend in Jamaica whom I love with all my heart, and perhaps my soul.
I have been living here for over a year and communicate with him very often. However, I am not sure if he feels the same way about me. He says he loves me and has often proven it to be true. I don't know if the distance is affecting our relationship and the way he feels about me. I don't want to lose him because if I do, I don't think I would be able to live long after that. I have heard that he has cheated with a lot of girls
I am not surprised because while I was living in Jamaica, he even cheated right in front of my face. I didn't really say much about it because I was afraid of losing him. When I decided to do the same, he beat me and broke up with me. He later apologized as it was his first time and we made up later by having sex.
Life partner
I really love him and the thought of losing him to someone else just tears me apart. I know he loves me in spite of everything that happened between us, and I really think that he is the person whom I will be with for the rest of my life. I have not been with anyone else in my life and I am determined to let it remain that way. What do you think I should do? Should I keep him or let him go?
A.M.,
Plantation, Florida
Dear A.M.,
You are determined to keep this man regardless of what he does. That sort of an attitude shows that you are naive. I hope you would change as you get older.
A woman should not tolerate a man regardless of what he does. It is not wise for a woman to give a man the impression that she would forgive him even though she has proof that he has been having sex with other women.
She should remember that he may not use the condom at all times with these women. And he may pass on to her venereal diseases. I am sure that you have heard about HIV/AIDS. There is always a possibility that anybody who is promiscuous can become affected. You believe that you can't live without this man. You are making a sad mistake. You are not tied to him. You are an individual. Yes, you love him, and you would like him to be your husband. However, you need to tell him that you are concerned about his lifestyle and you may have to consider ending the relationship with him if he continues to play around with other women.
Pastor.
