Dear Pastor,
I am having a problem with making the right decisions for my unborn child and me. I am 19 and my baby father is 27. He has another child who is currently in Jamaica with his mother.
I am four months pregnant, and I am so worried about whether he will be there for my child. When I told him that I was pregnant, he said he was not planning on having children with me, and that he has been with a lot of women and never got any of them pregnant, why him, etc. We have been serious for about a year, but I have known him since I was 15.
Feelings
Our relationship is not 100 per cent serious, but I have a lot of feelings for him. However, I am just worried whether he will be there. Sometimes when I try to start a conversation about the baby, he tells me to shut up, or if I tell him about my doctor's appointment, he doesn't show much interest. A lot of things go through my head such as whether I should just raise the child on my own, and not let him see it. I know it's going to be hard for me because when I was growing up, my father was a part-time dad and it was very difficult for me. As a result, I would love it if my child were to have a father figure around. Please pray for my unborn child, my baby father and me. Thank you for your time.
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Dear --,
Too bad that you didn't protect yourself. It is never wise to have unprotected sex. This man does not care. In fact, he is even giving the impression that he may not be responsible for your pregnancy. He is questioning how is it that you are pregnant and he has had sexual intercourse with many other women and they didn't get pregnant. He is surely not a good man. I wonder if he would have admitted to you that he has been playing around with other women if he had not got you pregnant?
Irresponsible
He is treating you as a child and I would not be surprised if after you have given birth, you would find it difficult to get child support from him. You may have to take him to court. He is not a responsible man. I hope that you would learn by your mistake. Have the baby, but see to it that you receive support from the father.
Pastor.
