Dear Pastor,
I have been searching for that special someone for a very long time. I am 20 years old and I have been living in Atlanta for two years. I had a relationship some years ago with this girl. I loved her and was very fond of her, and I still feel that way now. I can't seem to forget our relationship. I had to leave Jamaica and I didn't want her to have to hurt herself, so I told her that a long distance relationship was not going to work.
So as to ease the blows, I told her that it was okay for her to move on with her life. However, unlike her, I have not moved on. I check upon her all the time. She must have had five other relationships while I only had two.
I talk to her once in awhile, but I don't tell her about how I feel. I just keep it as a friendship. However, I miss her so much. Whenever I see her, I get a heart murmur like a sudden shock to my heart. I still dream about her after three years of being apart. I pray for her all the time.
Should I call her and tell her how I feel, or should I punish myself and keep it inside? Will my relationships ever be good with her in my heart?
P.O., Atlanta, Georgia
Dear P.O.,
Find out from this girl if she is still in love with you. You are still in love with her. Perhaps she feels the same way about you.
You know she has been intimate with other guys, and you with other girls. If both of you can deal with that, the relationship may be renewed.
Pastor
