Dear Pastor,
I need your advice for the following which I am about to explain. I have been seeing this guy for the past four years.
He has four children with one woman. I have a child that is not his. He and his children's mother are separated and he is only talking to his children.
He told her that it is over, but she keeps calling him. She knows about me.
That is the part that bothers me. Whenever he has to go to the house to visit the children, it makes me very jealous.
I want him to take care of his children, but I don't want him to go around her.
She keeps calling him saying that the children said this and that. He asked me to marry him. Please give me your advice.
N.B., St. Andrew
Dear N.B.,
This man will continue to speak to the mother of his four children. You ought to understand that he has to see them, and at times he may have to go to the woman's house. She has to call him often. She has four children by him. She cannot carry the burden alone. If you are planning to marry this man, please bear in mind that it would be wrong for you to do anything to prevent him from having a good relationship with his children and their mother.
Pastor
