Tell Me Pastor

My wife is staying out late

DEAR PASTOR,

I want to trust my wife, but there are certain things she says to me which prevent me from trusting her. She thinks that it is ok for her to come in at 2 or 4 a.m. and that I should not be upset. I have taken it upon myself to check up on her. By the way, she has stopped wearing her wedding rings. She told me once, that she has a friend who does not wear hers when she goes out, so that men could pick her up. I have no way of knowing whether this was her way of telling me she is capable of doing the same. I have decided to do the same and when she noticed, she said that I was immature and pathetic for not wearing my wedding ring. If she does not love me, I think that it would be best for her to tell me instead of making me look like a fool. I love her dearly, but her actions have put doubts.

Thank you. C.H.

Dear C.H.,

Are you trying to say that when your wife goes out you do not know where and she does that every weekend. So, brother where are you when she is out? Are you babysitting? Why can't both of you go out together? Do you think your wife was serious when she gave you the reason her friend does not wear her wedding rings? You seem to believe that your wife may be having affairs. If you seriously want to know if she has been going to bed with other men that is easy to find out. Your wife and you need to see a counsellor. You have your doubts. Someone has to help you if this marriage is going to work. Don't be tempted to go tit for tat. If you love each other, try to work together.

Pastor